Why I insist that my sons get more inheritance than my daughter

My spouse and I live in Ho Chi Minh City and have two sons and one daughter. Currently, our children are still young, but they are all well aware of my views on inheritance: the sons will receive more assets than the daughter.

I treasure my daughter like a princess, but in terms of passing down my assets, she cannot expect to receive as much as her two older brothers. This is simply because when she marries, she will live with her husband and her children will bear his family name.

My spouse and I have also agreed that when any of our children gets married, they will have to move out and live independently. This is to avoid situations where the child living with us might demand a larger share of the inheritance for taking care of us, which could lead to conflicts among siblings.

Each of my children will get a house to live in when they start their own family, but we will only transfer the houses’ ownership to them after we pass away.

In reality, if a person is greedy or hateful, not even familial bonds can compete with money. My family was the same. When my parents emigrated, they tasked my sister and her husband with taking care of their house. My sister then became greedy and wanted to have sole ownership of the house.

I feel sad and just hope that my sister and her husband soon realize that doing so is heading towards failure. The universe operates according to the law of cause and effect, so try not to hurt anyone, and do not demand what is not yours.

Am I unreasonable for giving my daughter less inheritance?

Reader Nguyen Hoang Dien

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