My wife doesn’t talk to anyone during visits to my family

I am 29, and my wife is three years younger. We were together for nearly two years before marrying four months ago. During our relationship, I’ve come to realize the importance of family dynamics, which were often overlooked while we were dating.

I was raised in a loving environment, surrounded by supportive and closely-knit relatives from both my paternal and maternal sides. This was evident during my engagement and wedding ceremonies, where family members of all ages actively participated in the preparations, ensuring a grand celebration.

In contrast, my wife’s family dynamics are different. Her family members are more isolated, focusing mainly on their individual affairs. The elders show favoritism, and there is minimal support among siblings and relatives. Consequently, my wife grew up to be quite independent within her family structure.

Since we began dating, and now into our marriage, our visits to my family—who often gather on weekends—have been challenging. My wife constantly appears irritated; she arrives, eats, then spends time on her phone without engaging with anyone. She also shows annoyance when I assist my siblings or when I purchase gifts for my parents.

These issues have led to repeated conflicts between us, and now she is contemplating separation. While divorce might seem straightforward, it holds substantial emotional weight for me, compounded by concerns over what others might think regarding my family. Despite my attempts to discuss these matters gently with her, she remains unresponsive.

What steps should I take in this situation?