I decline inheritance of my in-laws’ house

I wonder why so many people eagerly anticipate inheriting assets, even though these are only promises at this stage. Illustration photo by VnExpress/Ngoc Thanh

Originally from a rural area, I relocated to the city to kickstart my career. I later married a woman from the suburbs of Hanoi, whose elder brother currently resides abroad. My parents-in-law, both over 70, live in a fully-equipped three-story house located on a main road, with its ground floor leased out.

Issues about my in-laws’ will came up during our family gathering over the Tet Lunar New Year holiday in February, when my brother-in-law and his wife were visiting. My wife was clearly delighted to hear that her parents wanted to leave their house to us. However, my refusal seemed to perplex everyone, leading them to think I was being foolish.

They don’t grasp that my hesitation stems from not wanting the responsibilities that come with inheriting the house, such as caring for my in-laws in their old age, managing ancestral worship, and accommodating relatives from the countryside. I prefer to maintain my independence and not be seen as someone who relies on others. Despite this, I am committed to supporting and caring for my in-laws as I always have.

Their reactions have also made me question why so many people eagerly anticipate inheriting assets, even though these are only promises at this stage.

Am I justified in thinking this way?