My husband lets me take care of our child all alone

I realized how indifferent and cold he was since we started dating, yet ignored it as he was kind. After getting married, I had to do all of the house chores, from cleaning the house to preparing meals. Things have not changed at all even after we had our first child.

He did everything slowly and clumsily, and there were many things that I had to teach him how to do. If I left our child with him, even for only five to 10 minutes, he would eventually wake our child up or make the kid cry.

Having a lot of things to take care of, I was only able to get back to work after our child turned five. I often get home at 8 p.m., because there are many things I still have to familiarize myself with at work.

Our child no longer requires much attention like before anymore, yet, my husband can’t even assist the kid in learning the alphabet.

Every evening, awaiting me at home is the scene of my husband shouting at our crying child for not concentrating. There was even one day when I had to stay at work until 9 p.m., and when I got home, I saw our child sitting at the corner as a punishment, while a pool of vomit sat in the middle of the house, while my husband was playing video games as if he was not involved.

When I asked him the reason why he didn’t clean up the mess, he responded that he didn’t know how to do it.

It has been five years since we got married, but every time we have a disagreement, he won’t even explain things to me, or just briefly talk things through. He has never tried to share his thoughts with me, as he knows I would eventually let him off even if he didn’t say anything.

I have a close friend whose husband is very caring. Despite working all day, every evening he takes care of their child, and every night he wakes up in the middle of the night to check on my friend and their child’s blankets. If the child gets sick, he will also be the one staying up to take care of the kid.

I get jealous every time I hear her sharing those details. The more I admire their family, the more I get sick of my husband.

What should I do to change my husband? Please give me advice.