My husband betrayed me far from home

I’m 39 and with a husband 3 years older than me. We have two smart, beautiful sons together.

We were poor when we first got together. After some time, my husband started his own business and it prospered.

We decided to live apart from each other due to our jobs. I used to work as a secondary school teacher but now I’ve been put on the payroll to teach in a small province. My husband moved to Hanoi for work and comes home on the weekends to visit me and my children.

When our son turned 4, my husband wanted us to move to Hanoi so we could live together as a family. I hesitated because I didn’t want to go out of my comfort zone and I was getting old.

He has since stopped pushing the matter, but he has always been so sweet and devoted to me and my children whenever he visits us. He never misses out on a holiday with me and treats me so well that all our friends and relatives are jealous.

But last year, my mother told me that I needed to stay with my husband or else he would leave me for someone else. I was startled when I heard her say that.

People are right when they say “out of sight, out of mind”. A month ago, I went to Hanoi with my husband to interview at a company near his work and I was offered the job.

My husband told me to wait a few more months so he could prepare a place for me and our children. My gut told me something was wrong so I went through his phone and discovered his affair with another woman.

I was flabbergasted because we were having such an amazing sex life. I couldn’t fathom why he had the audacity to betray me while still treating me so well.

My husband bought me a house even though I didn’t contribute a single penny. I thought he really loved me, but now, all of my excitement for the day when we will finally reunite has vanished.

I’m sitting in the dark, crying my eyes out while writing these lines.

Was I in the wrong for not following him to Hanoi in the first place?

What should I do to keep my husband while he’s being intimate with someone else? I’m devastated right now.